I was accused of being both today. And because I had expressed myself honestly.
Apparently,
-voicing my needs,
-and what I am and am not willing to compromise on,
-and refusing to be taken for granted....
Makes me that! Or so I was told.
It is a mightily righteous world in which selfishness demands selflessness.
And guess what? I am "mightily" sick and tired of it!
So dear readers here I am.
Hi, My name is Shahnaz and I am self centered and shallow...
And guess what? I LOVE that about me!
May I forever know what I want,
May I never be afraid to ask for it,
May the awareness of what I will and will not compromise on be mine constantly, and lastly...
May I always be someone who refuses to be taken for granted.
HUGS folks,
I am proud to be ME!
7 comments:
It is a mightily righteous world in which selfishness demands selflessness....
It rings so true but you know what some wise guy once said
"Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory."
so dear remember the three F's Forgive, Forget & Forge ahead.
Peace!!
To forgive is wise... to forget is stupid... and Forging ahead is what I am choosing to do, past it all. Somewhere out there is someone who is simply waiting for a selfcentered, and shallow person like me. And I intend on waiting.
the only people who manage to succeed in life are those who are able to balance b/w being selfish and selfless. but being selfless is self destruction.
so its good to be what you are instead of living with double standards.
@Mubi...
I agree. However it is the self righteous selfish ones that PISS me off when they demand selflessness all the while being incredibly selfish themselves. It is the ones who expect you to always be "understanding" and "forgiving", and, "compromising". What if I don't want to be any of those things. It is those people who want you to feel like you are a terrible person if you insist on attending to your own needs first. So Mubi I agree.
I adopt the oxygen mask theory. In an airplane when the cabin pressure drops, you are asked to put on YOUR OWN mask first before you help others even children! If there is no YOU there is no you to help at all...
So here's to us genuine folks, who are unafraid to be who we are and who make no apologies for the people we are despite what others want us to believe about ourselves. We KNOW who we are.... and I say we are darn proud of it too.
Always stay YOU, as you are. Only you can be you, and I'm going to stomp my foot and say I'm really fond of that you.
The hardest thing in the world is to be someone another wants you as. Don't let anyone put you in that position. Find "You", who you are, be as you are. Say, "Here's me. Take me for what I am, who I am, with all my positives, all my frailties. And if you can't, leave me be."
You are the best you, you'll always be the second-best anyone-else, just like the fact that others are the best they.
Love should always come easily, it shouldn't come through changing people or viewing them through a false prism. It should be about the wonder of you; not only the present you, but the many possibilities of you, possibilities that would come naturally to you, not those carved out for you by a love that is imposing.
It should be the continual realization that you are unique, like no other person in the world, that life is, or should be, the discovery and sharing of this uniqueness. It should not be one where the other person feels threatened by a you, changing or growing in ways different from what they perceive you to become.
@Mo
...It should be the continual realization that you are unique, like no other person in the world, that life is, or should be, the discovery and sharing of this uniqueness...
I love that statement! That is what LOVE is all about. The realization that your beloved is unique. They are not "someone else". They should be related to in a manner that is "unique" to them. Not in a manner in which you related to someone else... That is where my frustration lay in this one.
Mozzie my dear. I am blessed to have you. Despite your terrible therapy skills :P you spew therapeutic facundity... at least it reads as such to my specifics...
And yes you are right Love should come easily,
And you were right, I should not try to force it. If it isn't happening it isn't happening. Period.
So darling, thanks a bunch! For everything. I cannot wait to get to NY. Woo Hoo for galivanting! PS I still need tix- for Vienna, NY, and elsewhere...
Keep you eyes peeled for deals.
Humongous HUGS!
ME
Dear Shahnaz;
Everyone should feel proud on its self because Allah said.
"Laqad khalaknul Insana Fi Ahsan-e-Taqveem".
Please give me the contact # of Fraz, Kashif & Gulsher if you have, I am waiting for your reply.
Regards;
Naveed
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