Mothers and daughters

Chats with her mother are the most important conversations a daughter can have.

I'm 38 and most days all that is needed is a mama duck chat to get my brain right again.

A few days ago, Mama Duck says to me

"You are who you are because you have been through a lot..."

And just like that I remember who I am and why the struggle is necessary. 

Adversity is a catalyst for growth. 

And then I surrender and fall into the whirlwind that only a moment ago frightened me. Only this time it isn't fear, but resilience, awareness and a quiet confidence that I feel. A quiet sort of knowing that whatever is coming, I will face it and in the end I will overcome and be okay.

Meanwhile in another mama conversation - me with with my teen this morning...

Me- it's a hyper sexualized world you're growing up in

Bug- yup

Me- sex is a very natural and normal part of life you know

Bug- yup

Me- nothing to be ashamed of, quite normal to be attracted to people and for people to find you attractive 

Bug- I know mom...

Me- meanwhile attraction and all considered, your goodies are on lockdown! I mean if someone says 'you have great goodies', you tell them 'I know this- thank you. I like my goodies. They're my goodies! And just an FYI mate they are on lockdown. No goodies for you!!!'

Got it?

Bug- I got it. My goodies are on lock down!

Me- exactly! your goodies are on lockdown. If someone tries to get those goodies... I will go all psychomama on them!

Bug- oh I believe that!!!

Me- yup! I mean like seriously 

Bug- oh believe me I know!

And so it goes...

My mama reminds me that I must surrender into a whirlwind and I remind my bug that her goodies are on lockdown until further notice.

38 and 16

Different talks

Different lessons

Same wisdom!